Love ≠ Open-mindedness

Posted on: February 14th, 2014 by mattpapa 6 Comments


We live in the “same love” culture.   The new ethic is sincerity.  If he’s into guys, cool.  If she’s into girls, ok.   If that’s his religion, then it’s true for him.  If she wants to kill it, then that’s her choice.  Don’t judge, don’t offend, don’t disrupt.

Chill out evangelicals.

Granted….and sadly…Christians haven’t been the most gracious when it comes to these topics.  However…

Love ≠ open-mindedness.

Love is intense.  We all know this.

Nearly everyday my kids sincerely don’t want to sit in their carseats.  What does love do?  “Ok, no big deal honey, sit wherever you want.”


Love does this:  “Put your bottom in your carseat right now, or I will come put it there myself.”

If you have a friend who is making decisions that are ruining their life, love doesn’t stand by and watch it.  It sits them down…it gets in their face.

As it’s been said, the opposite of love is not hate.  It is indifference.

Love gets angry when the good of it’s beloved is threatened.

“To love is will the good of another.”  (T. Aquinas)

It turns out that our culture’s view of love is self-defeating.  If to love is to will the good of another, but in a culture of “non-judgmentalism” and “tolerance” a standard of good is lost, then love is lost.

Truth without love is bigotry, and quite often, Christians have been bigots.  But love without truth is cowardice.  And we live in a culture of cowards.

Stand up.  Do something.  Say something.  For love’s sake.  Be cool or be loving.  You can’t be both.

  • Derrick Bright

    Thanks for your thoughts, Matt. You don’t post enough. Of course, I suppose the good thoughts take time. :-)

  • Wanja Kuria


  • ovationeddie

    Great thoughts Matt. I think for many evangelicals the issue isn’t about standing up, doing or saying something….but rather, HOW to do that in a loving way. Our culture has moved beyond indifference to Christianity, and now Christianity is being referred to as bad for you, bad for our culture, and just plain judgmental. How do we do love in the way you described above, so it is effective and transformative?

  • Sarah

    I love you, Mr. Papa!

  • Dave

    Love is also: “What is bothering you about the car seat? Is it the strap? Are you uncomfortable in the car seat? Does daddy drive too fast? There could be other factors in play that you refuse to see because you already made up your mind that your way is the right way.

  • Mia Koehne

    Again…great truth. Lord Help me to Love with Truth and to not be a coward. Thanks Matt!